Things said, things not said
Things done or not completed
Exams, tests, assignments to complete, parties to go to - study or not? Party or not?
Will there be enough money?
What will happen if the bus is late?
What will happen if ...
Worry, fear, sleepless nights, comfort eating, have a drink to calm the nerves after a "bad" day, go to bed, toss and turn, look dreadful the next day, nothing fits, back to black - low self esteem, barbed comments ...
Truth is, most of us worry over things that may never happen.
It is also the truth that most of us are far stronger than we ever give ourselves credit for, because when the proverbial hits the fan - guess what, not only do we cope, but we find strength we didn't know we possessed - until we had no other choice.
Why?
Well some of it could be put down to our environment, our upbringing, our relationships with family members, co-workers and "bad" neighbours. But a lot of it is because we are afraid.
What are you afraid of? We are not talking about phobias but:
People who are Afraid of Failure - rarely start anything,
People who are Afraid of Success - worry about how they will sustain it,
People who are Afraid of Change - you like your comfort zone - sort of,
People who are Afraid of Truly Living - are usually afraid of all of the above.
Does this sound like you? I know it sounds like me, because I lived it - day in, day out. And where did it get me?
I became an overweight, worried insomniac.
So how can you stop this fear?
I feel that because it is a learned behaviour, we can unlearn it and move through fear into our personal strength and power. Think of the baby learning to walk, climb stairs, empty cupboards, stick sandwiches in the DVD player - they don't care what the outcome will be - they're too busy getting on with their lives. They don't care how many times they fail, they will master the art of - what is that standing on 2 feet thing called again - oh yes, walking, after all what use is that padded thing following me around all day if it's not to land on and cushion my butt.
But like all patterns of behaviour it may take a little it of time. So what happens if you need to stop worrying NOW?
2 things to try.
Be in the NOW - don't worry about tomorrow, you can't do anything about tomorrow, except prepare as best you can. That means forgoing the party for the extra bit of studying and the hope of a decent nights sleep. Accept that what happens tomorrow you will handle it, well or not - but you will handle it, because you have to.
Step into someone else's shoes. Think of a childhood super hero, how would they handle your problem? How would your coaches, mentors, trainers, parents - handle it? How can you incorporate the way they would do something to your situation? Step into their power and move through fear into action.
And as you handle each situation, your self esteem grows. If you can handle THAT what else can you handle?
Step into your own power and you can eliminate your fear of not being able to cope.
Things done or not completed
Exams, tests, assignments to complete, parties to go to - study or not? Party or not?
Will there be enough money?
What will happen if the bus is late?
What will happen if ...
Worry, fear, sleepless nights, comfort eating, have a drink to calm the nerves after a "bad" day, go to bed, toss and turn, look dreadful the next day, nothing fits, back to black - low self esteem, barbed comments ...
Truth is, most of us worry over things that may never happen.
It is also the truth that most of us are far stronger than we ever give ourselves credit for, because when the proverbial hits the fan - guess what, not only do we cope, but we find strength we didn't know we possessed - until we had no other choice.
Why?
Well some of it could be put down to our environment, our upbringing, our relationships with family members, co-workers and "bad" neighbours. But a lot of it is because we are afraid.
What are you afraid of? We are not talking about phobias but:
People who are Afraid of Failure - rarely start anything,
People who are Afraid of Success - worry about how they will sustain it,
People who are Afraid of Change - you like your comfort zone - sort of,
People who are Afraid of Truly Living - are usually afraid of all of the above.
Does this sound like you? I know it sounds like me, because I lived it - day in, day out. And where did it get me?
I became an overweight, worried insomniac.
So how can you stop this fear?
I feel that because it is a learned behaviour, we can unlearn it and move through fear into our personal strength and power. Think of the baby learning to walk, climb stairs, empty cupboards, stick sandwiches in the DVD player - they don't care what the outcome will be - they're too busy getting on with their lives. They don't care how many times they fail, they will master the art of - what is that standing on 2 feet thing called again - oh yes, walking, after all what use is that padded thing following me around all day if it's not to land on and cushion my butt.
But like all patterns of behaviour it may take a little it of time. So what happens if you need to stop worrying NOW?
2 things to try.
Be in the NOW - don't worry about tomorrow, you can't do anything about tomorrow, except prepare as best you can. That means forgoing the party for the extra bit of studying and the hope of a decent nights sleep. Accept that what happens tomorrow you will handle it, well or not - but you will handle it, because you have to.
Step into someone else's shoes. Think of a childhood super hero, how would they handle your problem? How would your coaches, mentors, trainers, parents - handle it? How can you incorporate the way they would do something to your situation? Step into their power and move through fear into action.
And as you handle each situation, your self esteem grows. If you can handle THAT what else can you handle?
Step into your own power and you can eliminate your fear of not being able to cope.
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